What is Blame?

When viewed from one perspective, blame is the placing of responsibility on the object or person with whom we are in conflict.  If angry at an object, perhaps you throw it, break it, or maybe become outwardly angry verbally, shout an expletive or at the very least clearly make known your dissatisfaction. (Needless to say, an inanimate object couldn’t care less about what we are feeling.)

Or one spouse says to the other about an acting out child: “It’s YOUR fault he/she acts that way because you never tell him/her no! You don’t set limits!” Typically the blamed one feels defensive and offers the following response: ”